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Haha this is so my song, love the related lyrics (dedicated to all my ex-es hohoho!)

“Over You” by Daughtry

Now that it’s all said and done,
I can’t believe you were the one
To build me up and tear me down,
Like an old abandoned house.
What you said when you left
Just left me cold and out of breath.
I fell too far, was in way too deep.
Guess I let you get the best of me.

Well, I never saw it coming.
I should’ve started running
A long, long time ago.
And I never thought I’d doubt you,
I’m better off without you
More than you, more than you know.
I’m slowly getting closure.
I guess it’s really over.
I’m finally getting better.
And now I’m picking up the pieces.
I’m spending all of these years
Putting my heart back together.
‘Cause the day I thought I’d never get through,
I got over you.

You took a hammer to these walls,
Dragged the memories down the hall,
Packed your bags and walked away.
There was nothing I could say.
And when you slammed the front door shut,
A lot of others opened up,
So did my eyes so I could see
That you never were the best for me.

Well, I never saw it coming.
I should’ve started running
A long, long time ago.
And I never thought I’d doubt you,
I’m better off without you
More than you, more than you know.
I’m slowly getting closure.
I guess it’s really over.
I’m finally getting better.
And now I’m picking up the pieces.
I’m spending all of these years
Putting my heart back together.
‘Cause the day I thought I’d never get through,
I got over you.

Well, I never saw it coming.
I should’ve started running
A long, long time ago.
And I never thought I’d doubt you,
I’m better off without you
More than you, more than you know.

Well, I never saw it coming.
I should’ve started running
A long, long time ago.
And I never thought I’d doubt you,
I’m better off without you
More than you, more than you know.
I’m slowly getting closure.
I guess it’s really over.
I’m finally getting better.
And now I’m picking up the pieces.
I’m spending all of these years
Putting my heart back together.
Well I’m putting my heart back together,
‘Cause I got over you.
Well I got over you.
I got over you.
‘Cause the day I thought I’d never get through,
I got over you.

After a light buka puasa, we went to Uptown last nite. A place which has seen many many things in its colorful lifetime. I had my normal fix of ikan pari bakar while Leyla had Stizzer’s Chicken Chop. And when you sit at that part of Uptown, surely your drinks would be from Ali Baba.

So there I was waiting for our food when I saw Ali Baba’s caption which was “A place where good people meet” - sounded like a steal from Cheers but then it did kind of have a lot of truth in it. Not only Ali Baba but the whole of Uptown itself.

I remember the first time I came her many years ago, where everyone who was anyone would always congregate here for long long hours, having a laugh and sharing all the interesting stories.

There was a time where the cool and hot babes of KL could be found here. No money to go clubbing? No sweat, just head to Uptown after 2am with just your shorts and you can see all the babes here. Or maybe if you spotted a hot girl at the club and kindof lost her while one of your buddies threw up on you, no sweat, head to Uptown for the “after party” and that hot girl will surely be there.

There was even one time Henry (one of the stall owners, yeah u guys know him rite) was having an all out war with his Mrs for having an affair with one of his workers, and after relating this to Leyla its so bizarre that at the same time she was there too when Henry was throwing his pots n pans! How close we were with each other but only to meet much much later

But then, Uptown started to have its downfall (if you’d like to call it that) where Mat Rempits started to reign supreme here. Along with the night bazaar (which was quite interesting actually) it bred much much more Mat Rempits in KL and probably this time was a turning point in Mat Rempit history where they grew larger and uglier. And this made Uptown a totally different place than the hip heydays - all the babes fled to Hartamas.

But alas, the authorities finally bucked up and moved the whole bazaar elsewhere (I believe to Kota Damansara and then to SS15 Subang) and the Mat Rempits were somewhat “vanquished” from Uptown.

Today, its back to its normal self, although a bit old and dirty at some areas. The babes aren’t back and probably those babes who did come to Uptown before are already aged and green now, preferring more to the comforts of home or their neighbourhood mamaks.

But still, it doesn’t stop me from coming back again to Uptown to have my ikan bakar fix, so yeah I guess Uptown does deserve a mention in the annals of every naughty KL boy’s life, yours truly included.

(photo courtesy of Dr. Faisal)

Spent my evening last nite with this crazy bunch of people, and yes it was so fun. I’ve been in the KLickr Flickr Group for quite some time but never had the chance to join their many meetups, so this was a first (of many many others in future!) Oh yeah, Leyla came along too, its just great to have a partner who shares your interests - and vice versa lah of course hehe. Last nite’s talk was by Reuter’s photographer Zainal Halim - was free and very informative than another photojournalism talk that I attended (and had to pay even), so much respect to him and his passionate job. I can only dream to still follow my dreams which is to be like him

Kudos also for Syahrin Aziz on organising the event

Do I dare say its based on personal experience? Hmm could be, read on..

I was on my way to work this morning, late as usual and when its after 9am, I usually switch on to Hitz.fm for JJ and Rudy where they do their “Gotcha” calls.

Today was something different and reminiscent of a prank call someone emailed to me many moons ago. The situation was, this guy named Rob has a hunky sexy male voice, so they called up this girl and Rob says he saw her at a club last Saturday night and she was so hot and he got her number through a friend. Says he didn’t want to approach her at the time as there was too many people and wanted to call direct instead. Fine.

The girl, upon hearing such a manly accented voice, is down right smitten already. I could hear her knees turning to jello and the tone of her voice became all chirpy and flirty. At one point even said “I’m glad you saw me in that green dress coz I look so hot in that dress!” Yes, funny funny indeed.

Then Rob goes on to ask the girl out on a date, she accepts immediately (note : the girl has no idea how Rob looks like, he could be a serial rapist for all she knows). Rob continues to ask her, “I hope you don’t have a boyfriend or anything, are you single?” to which she confidently and without a second of hesitation replied “No, I don’t and yes I’m single”

Then it got ugly.

Seems, this girl’s boyfriend was listening on the other line. A few sensory beeps came on the radio, but if I were him, my words would’ve been something along the lines of “You fucking bitch!” and he continues “….after all the things I’ve bought you, this is what you do to me??!” (note the monetary tone the guy brings up, coz yes its hard work looking for money and hard work to part with it to a lying bitch)

The girl in a last minute attempt to suddenly save her relationship, goes on to say “Baby its not like that! No la, its not like that b!”

Gimme a break, everyone heard it on national radio - you can’t save it for nuts.

So the boyfriend just curses away and hangs up the phone, the girl hangs up too and JJ & Rudy just says “Gotcha” to a mute line hehe hilarious.

First words out of my mouth were, “Oh my fucking God!” and I immediately had this post in mind.

You see, what I’ve been hearing most nowadays is about the cheating husband or boyfriend and how he broke that poor girl’s heart and what not. But rarely has it been a case of that poor guy. I know there are a lot of cheating girls out there but the story normally ends just there, no more follow up on how the guy is doing or anything, probably coz guys jump back much easier than girls kot? But nevertheless, my case in point here is that it is not always about the guy cheating on girls. Girls nowadays should just quit being extra insecure about it and just move on with your lives coz with this reality check, it seems a lot more girls are cheating than guys.

Even with this prank call, the girl didn’t blink nor did she hesitate to say that she was single. The least she could do (but still not advisable) would maybe to just say, “..yeah I have a boyfriend, but there’s no harm in meeting up” or “..yeah I do have a boyfriend and I’m sure he would love to join us for dinner” - kan? BTW, I know that would be exactly what my Leyla would say and just for the record, I do trust her 100% and we both are currently in a mode of “been there, done that” so actually it doesn’t really need to happen anymore, God willing.

So, has the world really tipped over on its head and should the guys now be worried and insecure about a relationship? Maybe not entirely but it does raise a concern which every guy out there should be assessing about. And back to my question, is this all based on my personal experience? Well I’ll be coy about it and say, that its for only some parties to know and maybe openly admit hahaha!

Sent the below email to the management of Bangsar Village due to the events that occured the day before

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Hello

Would just like to bring to your attention an incident which I witnessed yesterday at the new Bangsar Village wing.

I was with my fiancee at the Vincci shop on the 1st floor when was distracted by a commotion between one of your maintenance/security personnel with an Indian woman patron. Realised that the issue was that the lady’s daughter had a medium sized dog in her arms but at this point she was sitting on one of the chairs in the Vincci with the dog on her lap.

The lady kept stressing (loudly) that the dog is not running around the complex and that the daughter was carrying it, clearly annoyed of the fact that it was a common rule that no pets are allowed in the premises and extremely annoyed that your officer was doing his job and him being a Malay at that.

Not long after, your officer who was dumbfounded by the slurs, went off and came back with a partner to assist. Upon seeing this, the Indian lady became even more agitated and continued to scold and slur these 2 officers. I was totally aghast and disgusted by her behaviour and could not believe my eyes and ears at what was happening. I’m sure the average Malaysian should know that there is a fine line between having your dogs in a public area or not due to the sensitivity issue with the Muslim community, and its not all about whether the dog is behaving or whether its running around or being carried. I’m sure she is not versed at all with the common Malaysian culture and clearly to egoistic to care. At the same time, I realized that the dog had actually urinated a small amount on the daughter’s dress. So you can imagine the possibilities as this is a very sensitive issue for Muslims. Still if I should digress, it does say no pets allowed and not just dogs right? Does include cats. And it disgusts me further that she was blaiming your officers for approaching them because they were Malaysians and that if they were expats, no one would approach. This really is too shallow for a Malaysian to be thinking. The sole reason why I did not interfere is because of the sheer stupidity of the person which would only cause me to waste my time trying to say whats wrong or right, thus the reason why I’d rather inform you instead.

The reason I’m writing to you is mainly as a backup to the 2 Malay officers who were shamed in front of everyone by this lady and also as a testimony that they were just doing their jobs. The lady had threatened to complain to the management and I am afraid that there could be some miscommunication or exxageration, so I would just like to provide my side to the story of what I saw with my own eyes and also so your officers will not be blamed of what transpired.

Thank You
Hazman Badrudin

I hate to boast but I have somewhat been there and done that when it comes to most things in life. Although education wise, I wasn’t really there but I am proud to have learnt most things by myself, self taught and street smart to say the least.

When we talk about relations, I’ve had my fair share of being with many colourful characters which came in different shapes and sizes. But although variety is always a plus in any situation, whatever we see at face value is never ever as pleasant in the inside.

I have learnt many many times that people who look nice are not necessarily nice in the inside. People who everyone see and portray as such a beautiful person can turn out to be a monster and deceiver in real life. How we all wish we were in a perfect world where the prettiest of persons are the most angelic of beings.

Unforced and made under my own volunteering notion, although not yet in a perfect world, I do dare say my Leyla is somewhat almost there. She’s pleasant to look at, pretty to talk to and understanding like my best guy buddy sitting on a barstool laughing away.

When I look back again at my colourful history, I’ve always tended to trust my eyes. And what I’m trying to say is that with all that has happened, I have learnt the hard way that my eyes cannot be trusted as the choices made by these two bozo eyeballs have almost always landed me in hot soup and had me in a cauldron of a miserable melt down.

No offence to my past liaisons but yeah it does teach me to be smarter in any case and as I’ve discussed with Leyla in our sometimes long and endless chats, that all the troubles that we went through was nothing more than just a changing process and just a long line of steps towards meeting our ultimate soul mates. And we both thank God that those changes in our lives did occur because it wasn’t something that killed us but it was only something that made us stronger.

So I’m glad that this time around, I used my heart and common sense rather than trusting something that was just skin deep because beauty is certainly much more intense than that. Its not about having legs all the way to the moon, its not about having Betty Davis eyes, its not about demure white skin you’d want to make red and it was never about having a trophy on your arms day and night. It was all about heart and soul which will turn everything in our lives into gold.

But hey, if you get a little bit of both, consider yourself a lucky man, just like yours truly

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Gosh has it really been that long…. time does really fly when you’re having fun

Yes, it has been one year plus already since Leyla and me decided to hook up and this June, it’ll be one year since we got engaged. Believe you me, having Leyla in my life has been the best thing that ever happened to me.

I’ve been so busy with work and other stuff that I seem to have neglected this blog and also neglected the fact of mentioning much about Leyla too. Not that I have loyal readers but it is a nice feeling to have people ask me to update my blog and also I remember people wanting to know whats the whole story with Leyla.

As mentioned, we got hooked up via Kak Lyn who I was chatting a lot with on YM, she’s my kakak angkat already and at first I would honestly say that when Kak Lyn persuaded me to get to know Leyla, it was more to just obliging her wishes. And the funny thing as well was that Kak Lyn cooked up a story to Leyla saying that I was the one who wanted to really get to know her. Very funny when I think back on it!

We started chatting almost daily on YM and finally one day decided to meet up for ice cream. I told her, lets make it a tshirt and shorts affair but not holding up to my part of the bargain as well, I came to her house dressed in my best, and true enough she wasn’t in her tshirt and shorts as well!

First thing that came out from her mouth when she saw me “Eeeiiii macam Cina lah!”

“Yes, hello to you too” I mumbled

But she was oh so likeable right after that. The bubbly nature and talkative self had me going already, me being the quiet type, always loves noisy company (weird eh?)

Not sure if it was the nerves or if it was just her (now I know it was just her) she was making conversation like nobody’s business and I loved it. We clicked right away like how we clicked through YM and somehow everything that I talked about she could relate to as well. I was almost sure this was really going somewhere

So there we were at Haagen Dazs, Mont Kiara finishing our sundaes when she undid her hair and had it flowing down her shoulders to her back. I kid you not, I was really floored. My mouth I’m positive was gaping for at least 10 seconds. When I look back, I really think that this was the moment that did it for me. Yeah I know, don’t judge a book by its cover but with this cover, I was positive it was going to be a long cool read and indeed, so far I’m enjoying every single page!

Not long after that, one late night, we were talking about the future and somehow she said about not wanting to be played around or having as a fun time, so I dunno what hit me but I straight away said, “…fine, so lets do it, lets get serious…” without a single hesitation in my mind.

Two days after that, I was calling my mum “Ma…nak kahwin la..”

“Haaaa?? Dengan sapa? Kau betul ke dah kenal hati budi diaaaa??” True to my mom’s typical reaction

I answered with a firm “A’AH”

So there we were, talking about hantarans, langkah benduls and dulangs - it was a strange yet bizarre feeling. Me, the guy who never knew if he would ever settle down, talking about marriage with his mom. And yes, Ultraman Taro was right, when you get the calling, you’ll certainly know the feeling. Right on bro, this was it.

A few shopping sprees later, all the hantaran stuff was ready to be “gubah” by the creative fingers and before I knew it, there I was standing all decked in green outside Leyla’s house waiting for my “rombongan” to do their thang inside. I felt nervous, calm yet blurred and a bit proud being there under the shade of the canopy just waiting. Hearing slight whispers and also getting updates from my buddies who were inside, on what was being said or what was being joked on. Bizarre, really bizarre…

All these people from far away, came up to KL and to Bukit Jelutong, just for me and Leyla, wow…
All these caterers and canopies here setting up the food waiting to be eaten, just for me and Leyla, wow…
All the major people in our family, sitting inside together and talking about us, me and Leyla, wow…
What else could I ask for more? Its just one of those situations where you just can’t phatom the impact and depth

And as I told Leyla later on that night, “we really mustn’t fxxk this up!” We went through all this just to get our families together in order for us to do everything thats right, we really couldn’t fxxk this up!

Still in the past year, I must admit it hasn’t been all smooth sailing. Of course all relationships are never left unblemished by the scars of arguements and misunderstandings. But for me, its simple. All it takes is a lot of patience, understanding, preseverence and most importantly give & take. And with all this as our armour, insya Allah the rest will just follow all in good faith.

I really love my Leyla, she’s the best thing that ever happened to me and no one has ever understood me the way she has - and to think, our journey has only just begun

Leyla’s cousin Tina got engaged yesterday to her beau Azad. Intended to be a “merisik” session but ended up being a “pertunangan” instead. All in good taste either way anyways

Congrats to the happy couple and to their families!

As per usual, I was their eye behind the lens for this special day

Go here for the selection of photos : http://xman.fotopages.com

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